Acknowledging IOIs: Where to look and how to interpret

After you have opened the set, even before, you should keep your eye out for the IOI(indicator of interest). This is critical in feeding your ego and calibrating your where you stand in an interaction. Many guys, due to calibration, can't spot them or are too busy worrying about their words and routines. However, IOIs are vital to recognize and interpret.
What is so important about an IOI? Well it is a subcommunication from your target that she is into you. Once I spot the IOI i usually drop the thread I was on and assume IR(instant rapport). No more routines and Game ON!!!
What are some IOIs? The most common one you will hear about or see is the girl playing with her hair. It communicates that she is sizing you up but is definitely interested ,thus far. My favorite one is the stomach punch or the shoulder slap they will give me if I say something they didn't expect or tease them. These are a result of a BT spike and I use this to quickly escalate the kino. If she asks you a question about yourself or compliments you, that also is an IOI. A shit test is an IOI. If they werent interested then they would just turn away. If they werent interested then why would they expel the effort to play games with you. Another common IOI: you see a girl in your periphary looking at you as she leans over and whispers to her friend then they both giggle. If I see this I know they are asking for it!
Once the IOI has been spotted, drop your own defenses a little. Drop your routines and go into (IR) don't stop giving the BT spikes yet, but understand that you have gained interest and often that you have reached the hook. Guys, these IOIs are subtle and as i said, SUBCOMMUNICATED. They aren't aware of what their doing and often times not sure what they are feeling. You can't call a girl on this and you dont give up, just understand that upon acknowledgement it is time for a phase shift.
There are other more subtle IOIs that are critical to the rest of your game. If she returns to you and re-engages you this is just as much of an IOI as if she has spent 20- 60 minutes in rapport or comfort with you. You have to be able to frame these gestures correctly and act upon them. A girl that has spent more than ten minutes in comfort with you is definitely interested and needs more or you will be LJBF'd. Many guys have problems going to the next level, but I see these IOIs as encouragement to keep pushing.
Because, Many people are not as aware of how to interpret or display BL as I am I do not get discouraged if I see what are generally dictated as IODs. Indicators of disinterest. Those include, constantly looking over the shoulder, legs crossed away from you, or stiff and unresponsive. I will not get discouraged at the sight of those because I know that I am an extremely social person and am light years beyond many people. If a girl is stiff and unresponsive, maybe she is uncomfortable in the setting or isn't socially agile. If she's looking over her shoulder maybe she is expecting somebody or watching her friend. if her legs aren't crossed towards me then maybe she is just comfortable sitting that way or maybe even fully understands BL and is trying to play hard to get. There are to many possible reasons to automatically eject based on an unspoken compliance test. PERSIST & PURSUE!!!

Flirtation as an Art

My dearest friend Elation, this one's for you.

Flirtation is the art of subtlely spinning sexuality into your conversation. While there is such a thing as verbal flirtation, use of BL to flirt is far more effective. Flirtation is a powerful tool that can make or break a close. You must learn the how, the when and the why of flirting in order to dominate a social situation or a venue, so let me break it down for you.
There are many types of flirtation that can be displayed in a number of ways. The first lesson you learn here is how to harness and utilize the infamous "Bedroom Eyes". Bedroom eyes come naturally when you find yourself completely submerged in a romantic scenario. imagine if you will: your on the phone with, or in the arms of your target. Your hands are holding hers and your fingers are caressing hers. you are talking deeply with her. Your words are soft and her scent has completely aroused and overcome you. Your lids begin to droop and your your cheeks feel warm. These are bedroom eyes. They are a powerful tool of seduction. Get familiar with them. Practice in front of your mirror or while you are driving down the road.
The next step is to formulate the perfect smile. This smile is similar to the one that you would wear if every girl in the bar was stealing glances at you. It resembles the smile that would come naturally if you had a secret that you werent supposed to tell the person in front of you, but you might if they meet specific demands. Find out which one this is and anchor it so you can pull it out of your sleeve at a moments notice. This smile is secret weapon number two.

One more secret tool is the art of the underlying meaning. Simply, this is when you take a statement out of it's original context and apply a sexual meaning to it ie: "I'm confused" this statement could dictate that a person isn't sure of what's going on. If an HB makes that statement then, to insinuate it's underlying meaning you can retort:" i bet you are". Give your flirtatious smile and you have just established a sexual vibe.
So, when is it okay to flirt? Always!!!! In fact my ability to entice everyone in my social circle is based on my power to flirt effectively. I wink at everyone in the same manner yet it subcommunicates what I want it to to each individual person. I always smile when im talking to someone I am meeting for the first time. I've been told that my eyes make me look like I am up to mischief. The whole image put together displays a playful guy who knows how to have fun and the mere essence of child-likeness itself is captivating and seductive. I flirt heavily with girls I have no interest in as it builds a team of women who display pre-selection for me through social proof. I flirt more subtlely with girls I do have an interest in and withold the good stuff until in comfort or rapport.
If i am dancing with one girl on the dance floor then I am flirting with everyone I make eye contact with while doing so. If I am having some girl force rapport on me( the ones i have no interest in who have taken my flirting to heart) then while she talks i pretend to listen but position myself where I can look at other girls and scan the room. If I am in rapport with a target then I generally turn my BL more towards her. I reward her with flirting and kino once she has amazed me, but not until then.
If someone is talking and i don't have a response or I dont care and am having the interaction specifically to tool them, then I will give them the wink over and over or a positive response with my infamous smile. You'll be surprised how far flirting will get you but you'll also be surprised how it could fuck you if not used correctly.

I opened... Now what

A problem I see a lot of guys with is that some sets are very receptive to the opener while others aren't. This receptivity can lead guys astray as they get to a certain point past the opener, then they are not sure what is going on so they eject. Knowing what to do past the opener is imperative. LEAD, LEAD LEAD!!!
You must have a goal in mind of where you are wanting to take the interaction so staying on one subject(ie: the opener) will only lead you to a stalemate. Ive already informed you that the opener is just a line or so, thus, it should be brief. Have a number of back-up threads on hand to plow with. Also make sure that you are kinoing and repositioning yourself and the target/set. It's amazing how those two things alone positively correlate with the amount of time you will stay in set. As an approach coach I notice that students usually have no problem establishing kino, but 90% of the time they are too caught up in their head to remember the lock-in.
An interaction should flow in this manner:

-approach

-opener

-new thread(multiple)

-bouncing to different areas/ venues

-close

So youve approached, opened, locked-in and begun kino. Next step: Conversation. You will probably be plowing still so have a good number of topics to discuss. the goal here is to even the convo flow out to 50/50 or even 40/60 with you talking less and less. Learning when and how to switch topics effectively comes from calibration. I prefer to switch topics at the climax of the previous thread or shortly after. How to: with high-energy and exciting BL tell a story and pick a topic within the contexts. Point to something she's wearing or point out a random person and ppl watch with her. I like to play "fuck, marry, kill".

Topics girls cant get their hands off of are: anything health and beauty related, relationships and drama, fashion, celebrities, spirituality and cold-reads, and last but definitely not least THEMSELVES. During the plowing process, never allow the set to dominate your thread. Always have a back-up thread to throw in if it starts getting too messy, also this helps regulate their BT levels. Don't want them getting too excited too quick.
The idea of leading them means leading the conversation across critical topics that you think will take you and the set where you want to be. If I plan to number close, i will either talk about my interests and upcoming events or ask what they are into. With this information in mind I can then close the number right there: "OMG I cant believe you like indie cinema too! there is a movie coming out this weekend and since our friends hate indie cinema we should go, I definitely have to get your number!" successful number close. Don't be afraid to mix in some NLP or or some role-play.
Girls love role-play, in fact if you were trying to bring out the little girl inside them this is the first step you could take.

ie: hb:HMM, we didn't really come here to talk to boys

me: ya we didnt come to talk to girls either. MATTER-O-FACT we have already established this side of the bar as guys only and we dont take kindly to girls being over her

hb: OH YA!?

me: OHH YAA! we are against cooties so don't think for a minute that you will be invited to the sleep over or allowed in the tree-house. And just so you know We got the new superman movie and we brought our superman pj's. But don't think were gonna let you come.

HB: laughs and punches you........................... You see how that incorporated NLP and role play? Once they laugh and hit you you have reached a hook and you are now a part of the set. Girls love role-play and they enjoy using their imagination and acting like little girls. You establish the comfort for them by letting them act that way and youve also established that you are a fun exciting guy. A lot of work will be put behind you.!!

OPENING STYLES AND THE PRIMARY OBJECTIVE

There are a number of ways to open but one PRIMARY objective. The objective: reach a hook and define yourself as interesting. How do I do this? I will explain in a bit. As for opening styles their is the direct approach and the indirect approach.

The direct approach has lately fit my style as I have plenty of social value at the venues I go to, automatically removing me from the"creepy" catergory. In order to derive success from your sets you have to set and maintain a level of congruence. This starts at your approach and follows through in the opener. For a direct approach I like to establish good EC( eye contact) and hold it as I approach the set. My direct openers range all the way from the infamous " hi, whats up?" to something as severe as "you are the hottest girl I have seen thus far since I've been in Dallas". Either extreme needs a good follow through and I will give examples momentarily. I usually stick with a comfortable opener, such as a compliment on something they are wearing or even their vibe by claiming that" I could feel it from over there".

My more direct openers always involve usage of NLP and a few other things. Dominant kino. If I establish EC on the approach and then they attempt to shut me out or turn their gaze as I near I will actually turn them towards me and as I open I will progress the kino escalation and lock myself in. It is important to uphold the congruence it takes to directly open a set. If you are offering the strong frame by being blunt you must immediately establish dominance. For instance how would it appear if you opened with "Youre definitely the hottest girl I have seen in a while..." and stood there hands to the side, no kino, and no lock-in? It would look weak and your opener would fail.

Now with an indirect opener you must also set your body language in tune with the style. I typically use indirect openers on warm-up sets or in unfamiliar venues. The verbage ranges from an insignificant question such as " Why are there guys dancing on stage", to a neg or tease such as "wooden shoes? Are you actually wearing those?". EC is not necessary on the approach but must be used after or during your opener. Also I make it a point not to crowd or come off too direct with my BL(body language)until i have reached a hook. In fact, i often shuffle or pretend to be a passer by as I take baby steps in the opposite direction.

Make it a big point to never follow a set unless you are IN with them. Some sets upon opening will start taking baby steps in the opposite direction and talk to you over their shoulder. It is instinct to take baby steps with them but you must refrain. Hold your frame and don't be scared to talk louder or also take baby steps in the opposite direction. There is an unspoken social pressure that will start to weigh on them and force them to turn around and come back. I call this the "Boomerang Effect" and I go into it extensively in my boot-camps.

Keep in mind that the opener/ gambit is just a line or question you throw out there to get their attention. Though it holds little weight calibrate your openers to acceptable standards. Open with hugs, dance with them, or grab breasts if your frame is strong enough. Though a goal you should have is to assume instant rapport, refrain from ragging on her like you would another guy until a later date. You want to essentially calm down their defenses not raise them in any way.

Platonic or Promiscuos Intentions: DRAWING THE LINE

A recurring question guys ask me is: "How do you create a pivot? Should I abstain from sex with my pivot? Does that ruin the relationship if I do have sex with her?" This is a very iffy topic so let me answer the questions and explain my theories.
Q: Should you abstain from sexing up your pivot? A: learn to read the situation.
Do not sex your pivot before actually getting her used to doing her duties. Take her out with you lay down the rules and tell her what is expected and talk with her as if she were just a cool guy with boobs. This will accustom her to your views and beliefs regarding relationships and will assist in implanting the idea in her head that you are not looking for a serious/ monogamous relationship. Once she has grown accustomed to this she will often still pursue sex with you and it is understood that she must continue to uphold the duties that she was signed on to accomplish. Learn to calibrate the girls you choose for a pivot and remember that she is your/ a new wing. Be as honest with her as you would your closest friends and the vibe will be solid enough to withstand the trials that sexuality might place on a normal relationship.
Remember do not sex her before she knows her role. This could be detrimental. If you tell her that you want her to help you pick up girls and that there is no sex involved and then you have sex with her before she pivots, then it appears as if you manipulated her to get her in bed and she either now sees you as deceptive or as the next guy she will invest in emotionally. Neither of those are that great!

Another thing you will need to establish before you can create pivots successfully is a strong identity with yourself and a strong comfort with your own replication value. I use to have a problem when it came to creating pivots. The problem was that even though I knew I wanted to make a girl my pivot I couldnt stop thinking about how i wanted to sex her. The problem wears its self out in time. I became comfortable with the fact that I knew I was going to always be able to find a sexual partner thus I did not have to have sexual relations with all my girl-friends. If you want to have sex with her then make her your target. Do not beat around the bush by trying to put her in the pivot catergory if you want to sleep with her. This only confuses your game-plan and elicits insecurities through mis-calibrated actions.

THE SCREENING PROCESS

PART TWO: LOGISTICS


Alright So I have walked you through laying bricks in the path of MLTRs, now, lets talk about executing a successful venue change.

Although I truly value the girls I connect with and thoroughly enjoy aspects of the relationship other than sex, I am not opposed to the SNL. In fact I am not the least bit angry if it doesn't work out. The first thing you have to do is get a feel for the logistics. Is she with a friend? If so, how many? Who drove? did you bring your wing? Did your wing drive? Where does she live? Where is she staying the night? Where does she live in relation to you, and the venue? You also have to take into account the emotional state of her friends and learn to lead and direct them also.

Generally I will ask these questions sporadically and I will waste no time. However since i am not fully reliant on the SNL I usually only care to ask Where(what city) she lives. This is important because once you have established, and are comfortable with your replication value, you will not want to drive more than 20-30 minutes to meet her or for a late-night call or whatever. My first LTR in the game lived over an hour away. Though she was a sweet girl who I cared about, A major factor in the loss of interest was the driving distance. With this in mind decide what is an appropriate distance for you and pursue that. If you meet a girl who lives further don't be rude and end the interaction, #-close and invite her out with your social circle when she is in town, then find a more feasable target.

I will also inquire as to whether she has her own car or not. As I said I am in to building meaningful relations with girls so i demand that they have their own car in order to help balance out the expenses of driving. I am currently involved with one girl who is extremely hot and only lives 15 miles away. I am unsatisfied with the fact that she doesn't have a car because driving 15 miles in the city is equivelant to driving 30 miles.

The more you know about logistics earlier on the more time you will have to begin to piece together a successful bounce. The only thing standing in your way of your master plan once you have it devised is the friends.

If a girl has friends with her she either has been great friends with them a while or she tooled them strictly for the purpose of going out and feeling safe. Regardless, she care about their opinions and their judgements, so she will not ditch them to hang out with you without their approval. You must befriend/ disarm the obstacles before you isolate for rapport.

Methods I use to befriend, include dancing with, and on, all of them. If dancing isn't entailed at the venue then I will spend 10-30 minutes engaging the whole group. Avoid the 2-set if you plan on hitting the SNL, though I have often had girls meet up with me after they drop their friends off. Generally it is impossible to isolate either member of the 2-set unless you have an awesome wing. It takes an average of 4-10 hours to lay a target so be sure you spend your time wisely figuring out the logistics and dealing with obstacles.

If you have come to acknowledge that logistics could be tricky due to the direction she is headed when she leaves the venue, bounce to a venue that is closer to your home. Often I will ween them in the direction of my house one venue at a time in order to gain a positive response when I offer my house as a venue.

Secure the venue change by either riding with or allowing your wing to ride with the set. This keeps their minds occupied and they are less likely to change their minds. If they do change their minds then just hope you see your wing again :)

EXPOSING THE INNER CHILD

THEORY AND IMPLICATIONS


One large theory I have helped develop and share with my colleagues is the theory of the Inner Child.
The basics to this theory are that 1) we are all born with our personality, and that 2) Maturity is a protective mask that society has forced us to wear through our dealings with other individuals. In short we all have a small, creative, imaginative, and optimistic child inside of us that is waiting to be brought out.
Have you ever noticed that children grab us by the heart because they are not afraid to express their dreams and hopes to us? They will tell you how when they grow up they want to be an astronaut or a super-hero and nothing is going to stand in the way. This optimism is the most attractive quality in humans and everyone has it. You just have to know how to bring it out.
Negative responses from females and the resistance in most people to change is a result of the mask society has placed on everyone. As I said before, I take everything ppl say lightly unless I know that I am connected to their inner child and the responses I am getting seem to be coming from a part of them they don’t talk about often.

THE SCREENING PROCESS

PART ONE: THE FOUNDATION WORK FOR THE MLTR


As I begin to venture into deep rapport with the girl for the first time I find it necessary to express my views on relationships straight-up. I begin with a pre-selection thread and make it a point to attest to the traits of prior LTR’s and gf’s that I despised.

Ie: “so how do most of your relationships go? What are you looking for at this point in your life? I just weened my way out of a six-month relationship and there is no way I will engage myself in another. Don’t get me wrong, I love being able to connect with a partner but seeing them more than 2-3 times a week or having her always demand that I be on the phone with her, at this point in my life, is ridiculous. I’m tied up with school right now as well as my work and another side-business that I run. I really need to use my time effectively and I am looking for girls that can respect that and support me and my goals. I also can’t stand the idea of monogamy and I am always dating. In my relationships I like to connect with the other person on a deep level and every minute is an adventure. When you’re with me its our time and I’ll do my best to make it as exciting as possible. What about you?”

Because girls are emotional and normally have a lot of pride they will not verbally agree with you. In fact I take everything a girl says lightly when they are not in the state they are in when I engage the little girl inside of them. Any response that a girl gives me in a disagreeable fashion, I accept as something they felt had to be said and I spend no more time dwelling on it.
After the screening, if she allows me to get to know her better and carry on rapport, I accept it to mean that she has heard what I said and accepts it. Especially, if there is a day two. Keep in mind that if at any point later in your relationship she attempts to push for more in terms of a monogamy, you have already expressed your opinions on the subject to her and you need to make sure she knows that you don’t share her views and you will not hold her back from seeking what she wants elsewhere.
If a girl changes her mind later you can not stop her. Women have a biological clock that is always ticking and has been since they hit puberty at the age of eleven and with that comes the urge for a greater sense of security and the instinct to reproduce. Attempting to manipulate this can do serious emotional damage. Besides PUAdom generally allows you to find another girl you can connect to with no problems.

THE ART OF PLOWING

A BEGINNER TO INTERMEDIATE GLANCE AT PURSUING SUCCESS


Plowing is often, in fact, always necessary. But there are two factors aside from calibration that are mandatory to address.
The first is the acclaimed 90/10 rule which dictates that for the first minute or so you must provide 90% of the interaction because the openee will provide no more than 10%, if that. There are a few theories I have about why the 90/10 rule must be adhered to. The first is that while you provide the 90% you are exposing your frame while they get a feel for it and are able to see how they can fit into it. In fact Since you opened them you are in a position of power as you were able to conquer the invisible social barrier that interferes with open, easy conversational exchanges between two parties. You may have, in other words, shocked them.
It has also been shown that while during an approach the person opening is mainly concerned about how they look in others eyes while the people in the set being opened are concerned about how you will judge them. This is a point of power and a thorough understanding of this concept aids in the conquering of A.A.
The other factor you must deal with is learning the art of persistence which I will discuss later.
So, after you drop the opener the idea is to start a thread. Your first thread should be light as you will only get the same amount or response investment no matter how good the thread is. Then you cut that thread for one slightly better, and you will notice that you will get slightly better/more responses, cut that one then drop the a-bomb. The first two threads are only a means to plow through the akwardness and adhere to the 90/10 rule. The set is generally opened around the third thread. If not, drop another thread and make sure that you are following through with your kino and brief negs or teases.
Plowing does not entail dropping out at the sign of resilience. It involves going until you reach the hook and ending the conversation on a high-note having led the interaction where you wanted to be.

THE MINDSET OF THE WINNER

A question I have played over in my mind since I was a small child is : “where did we come from?” the answer “god” comes to mind. “Who made god, and who made them and so on?”
To somewhat settle this question I devised that I am my creator. I am my creator and everyone around me was created from a need inside me and exists to fulfill that need.(with respect to my religious/spiritual beliefs. My parents exist to have raised me My friends exist because I sought company that would partake in my endeavors and when my interests change I create a new area in my life that other figments must step in to fill. I am the artist and the world and my future are the canvas. Other people and belongings are the paint I use to color this canvas with. I am not THE creator, but I am MY creator just as each and every other person is Their creator.
Others don’t exist to me because I don’t know of them, just as AMOGs are random nobody’s who don’t deserve my time because they have nothing to offer me. In my world I am the most important person, in fact, the only person and must think of myself first because no one else has my interests in mind.
This belief is crucial to a successful mindset while sarging in eliminating my fears, including rejection and A.A. If I go to a bar it is because there is a need in me that must be fulfilled. I seek companionship and excitement when I go to a bar, therefore, what I am seeking I will find. Likewise others are in the same predicament. Everyone at the bar has placed themselves there to fulfill a similar need, thus they have come to interact with me. Harder sets provide me with a challenge or give me something to work harder for while those sets I have accomplished are a mere measurement and/ or test of my skills.

ON REPLICATION VALUE AND RELATIONSHIPS

At this point in my game I have had 30+ LR’s a few LTR’s and numerous other sexual interactions but what does that mean for me? It means in terms of the mystery method that I have established replication value. However, when you achieve that you must look beyond or you find yourself with unsatisfied partners( outside of sexual terms) and you find that relationships feel hollow and you start to wonder if love is a real thing. Basically you feel you have climbed a mountain and didn’t find what you were expecting. In order to achieve greatness you must define what greatness is. You must set goals and stick to them. Really define what makes you happy, and do not refer to dissonance in order to force the idea.
Also the whole idea of falling in love I chalk off as crap and see that it holds its’ place in the lives of those who are less than socially adequate. Therefore, love is only a state you find yourself in due to your lack of restriction on the flow of lust and neediness that results when you sporadically, and infrequently, find persons you think can fill the part of your life you thought was hollow. Then you reach the top of the mountain I spoke of before and realize that it is a feeling that is replicable and thus loses all magic and begins to carry less weight in the importance of our lives. With this understanding always on the edge of my mind, I must acknowledge and accept it then, find ways to satisfy my need for relationships while avoiding falling into the faux emotional trap often involved with monogamy.

I have come to realize that at this point I am unsatisfied with and, thus incapable of holding a monogamous relationship. One girl doesn’t do it for me because there is always something brighter and shinier just around the corner. My inhibitions are to find numerous girls that I can connect with on a deep level, who find me as fascinating as I find them. Problem is, I know that when you begin to connect with girls in the manner that I do, you find that they always want to be around you, and if you do not express your intent as first item on the program, then you have sub-consciously led them to believe that you want a monogamous relationship. In short, they will begin to manipulate the situation so that they feel that you two are bf/gf, just without the title. They will want you to spend vast amounts of time on the phone with them and will gradually push you to the point where you are constantly around them . In order to stay away from being labeled a liar or a jerk by a girl whom you led to believe that you wanted to join into a monogamous relationship with, You must conduct proper screening during the first few interactions and also lay the groundwork in building your ideal MLTR.

SOCIAL CIRCLE DEVELOPMENT

WORKING THE FLOOR


Working the floor is the concept of interacting someway with everything/ everyone in your environment. It starts with your first interaction of the day. Every interaction you involve yourself with should be positive and you should carry from them two things: Confidence, and a smile. These two things can be built up with every interaction and can often work for you most times stronger than any opener. In a nightclub scenario working the floor is the friendly alternative to the often dreaded bee-line towards the target.
As you enter the club, your first and foremost worry is to quickly gain high-energy. High-energy begins to form with the first smile you give and receive and must be quickly built upon by entering a set. As you enter each set you should have a care-free mind frame. While working your routine you should focus on only having a positive interaction. Leave the set on a high note and time-bridge by saying I’ll see you guys later and respectively give “daps”, or a high-five.
By doing this with a number of sets you have officially worked the floor and have built yourself a social circle which will provide you with plenty of value. In this manner work your way toward the target. Do not be scared to introduce members of certain sets to other sets. This act is called forwards and/or backwards merging. Doing this establishes you as the leader of the newly formed social circle.

Character Development.

The biggest problem I see in beginners is the lack of personality. They are an open book waiting for the pages to fill themselves with someone elses writing. I've been there myself so allow me to show you how to cut the biggest corner and reach your full potential quicker.

Lesson 1: DO SOMETHING ELSE!!!

I dont mean that you should completely or at all give up your quest for PUAdom, I mean find a hobby. Make friends, go camping, skydiving, hunting, cooking, take classes, do something away from pick-up. It helps you develop your own routines and gives you plenty to carry a conversation with. If you were a hot girl who had a life filled with excitement, who would you rather talk to? A. the guy who spends hours and days and weeks reading material and forcing routines? Or B. the guy who tells enriched stories that have you on the edge of your seat wishing that you were apart of every adventure he begins to tell you about. You would pick B because he is exciting, he has a life, and girls are just creatures he CHOOSES to share with. He isn't dependant on them. He doesn't let the world rest on the interaction with the one girl going well.

Image building

In order to be percieved as worthwhile to a girl, you MUST know how to dress. Dress is important because it is an external portrait of who you are inside. Girls size a man up at a glance by looking at his outfit. "Well I dress fine" you say. Well that is your pride and your internal comfort net speaking. You may however be an amazing dresser but that's only if you get compliments everywhere you go, like myself.
Truth is guys arent great dressers, typically, because we are told by society that a "shopping man" is queer. Our clothes are bought for us by older females in the family who take us in to the dressing room as a young child, give us a pair of wranglers then turn us around and give us the one finger pant jiggle to make sure that the clothes fit right. They give us the older clothes of our brothers which are generally 2 sizes too large and tell us how handsome we are, or they scout the clearance rack for the first thing that resembles fitting.
FIT is the first thing you want to look for in an article of clothing. You want to buy a pair of pants that compliments, or at least shows you have an ass. Shirts should be snug on the shoulders and should not balloon out or drape to your knees.

Shirts-
Typically I search for a Modern Fit, or look to see if the tag says fitted. A shirt could look awesome but if it doesn't fit right you look try-hard and it ends up being wasted money.
In a club environment I would stay away from plain button-ups or striped polos, just because it is a common high-school, college, gangster look. to compliment a solid or striped button up I prefer to wear another fitted t-shirt over it. Graphic tees preferrably. Make it a point to stay away from shirts with sarcastic remarks on them.
I also stay away from band tee's as they never fit right and ppl will judge you based on the band you are wearing.
I tend to stay away from mainstream stores which leads me to small shops where i WILL pay more in. Jumping up an extra 30-40 dollars for a unique shirt is well worth it to me if i know that I will not run into another guy wearing the same one.

pants/ jeans-

Pants are the foundation for your wardrobe. A pair of pants can make or break you. I prefer to find the closest fitting jeans I can find. diesels, tru religions, sevens and more are the higher costing jeans but they look so fucking good that they are worth it and generally turn heads. I've also found great jeans at hollister or Buckle. Guess also carries great jeans. You can also wear slacks which is a look I go for in the summer. The idea is to find pants that are not too long and wont be stepped on while at the same time preventing the crotch from hanging to your knees. Purchase pants that make your legs look more full and muscular. I stay away from the skinny ankle jeans as it's a grungy emo look and because boot-cut jeans cover your shoe laces which is an ocd trigger for me.

Shoes:

They say a woman can read a man through his shoes. I stick with Brown dress shoes, or comfy slip-ons that are unique. For instance in the summer I go for the look of a rockstar so i will wear some ed hardy converse or some stylish pumas. I generally like to stay away from tennis shoes because they dont work well with my style.

belts-

Belts must match a mans shoes. That is the only firm fashion rule I have heard for men besides dressing in seasonal colors. I veer away from solid colored belts as they bore me and find belts with riveted loopholes instead. Always have a belt buckle worth looking at, but try not to come off as a member of a boy band unless that image is congruent with who you are.

Socks:
should match your outfit, but I rarely wear them.

Accessories:
Arm bands-should match belt in color
Necklaces- should also match belt, and armband. if they are metal then the color should reflect elsewhere also.try matching it with the metal of your buckle.
rings: look around for rings that are completely unique and don't overdo the amount you wear at a tim i try to stay at 2-3 rings per hand maximum.

These are basic guidelines that I see most established dressers follow. Dont be afraid to try something different but be open to suggestions and opinions. Most dress styles are subject to congruence and personal preferences. I get asked if I am gay a lot but I am completely comfortable with my dress and recieve way more compliments than negative remarks