Tuesday, November 6, 2007

I opened... Now what

A problem I see a lot of guys with is that some sets are very receptive to the opener while others aren't. This receptivity can lead guys astray as they get to a certain point past the opener, then they are not sure what is going on so they eject. Knowing what to do past the opener is imperative. LEAD, LEAD LEAD!!!
You must have a goal in mind of where you are wanting to take the interaction so staying on one subject(ie: the opener) will only lead you to a stalemate. Ive already informed you that the opener is just a line or so, thus, it should be brief. Have a number of back-up threads on hand to plow with. Also make sure that you are kinoing and repositioning yourself and the target/set. It's amazing how those two things alone positively correlate with the amount of time you will stay in set. As an approach coach I notice that students usually have no problem establishing kino, but 90% of the time they are too caught up in their head to remember the lock-in.
An interaction should flow in this manner:

-approach

-opener

-new thread(multiple)

-bouncing to different areas/ venues

-close

So youve approached, opened, locked-in and begun kino. Next step: Conversation. You will probably be plowing still so have a good number of topics to discuss. the goal here is to even the convo flow out to 50/50 or even 40/60 with you talking less and less. Learning when and how to switch topics effectively comes from calibration. I prefer to switch topics at the climax of the previous thread or shortly after. How to: with high-energy and exciting BL tell a story and pick a topic within the contexts. Point to something she's wearing or point out a random person and ppl watch with her. I like to play "fuck, marry, kill".

Topics girls cant get their hands off of are: anything health and beauty related, relationships and drama, fashion, celebrities, spirituality and cold-reads, and last but definitely not least THEMSELVES. During the plowing process, never allow the set to dominate your thread. Always have a back-up thread to throw in if it starts getting too messy, also this helps regulate their BT levels. Don't want them getting too excited too quick.
The idea of leading them means leading the conversation across critical topics that you think will take you and the set where you want to be. If I plan to number close, i will either talk about my interests and upcoming events or ask what they are into. With this information in mind I can then close the number right there: "OMG I cant believe you like indie cinema too! there is a movie coming out this weekend and since our friends hate indie cinema we should go, I definitely have to get your number!" successful number close. Don't be afraid to mix in some NLP or or some role-play.
Girls love role-play, in fact if you were trying to bring out the little girl inside them this is the first step you could take.

ie: hb:HMM, we didn't really come here to talk to boys

me: ya we didnt come to talk to girls either. MATTER-O-FACT we have already established this side of the bar as guys only and we dont take kindly to girls being over her

hb: OH YA!?

me: OHH YAA! we are against cooties so don't think for a minute that you will be invited to the sleep over or allowed in the tree-house. And just so you know We got the new superman movie and we brought our superman pj's. But don't think were gonna let you come.

HB: laughs and punches you........................... You see how that incorporated NLP and role play? Once they laugh and hit you you have reached a hook and you are now a part of the set. Girls love role-play and they enjoy using their imagination and acting like little girls. You establish the comfort for them by letting them act that way and youve also established that you are a fun exciting guy. A lot of work will be put behind you.!!

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