After you have opened the set, even before, you should keep your eye out for the IOI(indicator of interest). This is critical in feeding your ego and calibrating your where you stand in an interaction. Many guys, due to calibration, can't spot them or are too busy worrying about their words and routines. However, IOIs are vital to recognize and interpret.
What is so important about an IOI? Well it is a subcommunication from your target that she is into you. Once I spot the IOI i usually drop the thread I was on and assume IR(instant rapport). No more routines and Game ON!!!
What are some IOIs? The most common one you will hear about or see is the girl playing with her hair. It communicates that she is sizing you up but is definitely interested ,thus far. My favorite one is the stomach punch or the shoulder slap they will give me if I say something they didn't expect or tease them. These are a result of a BT spike and I use this to quickly escalate the kino. If she asks you a question about yourself or compliments you, that also is an IOI. A shit test is an IOI. If they werent interested then they would just turn away. If they werent interested then why would they expel the effort to play games with you. Another common IOI: you see a girl in your periphary looking at you as she leans over and whispers to her friend then they both giggle. If I see this I know they are asking for it!
Once the IOI has been spotted, drop your own defenses a little. Drop your routines and go into (IR) don't stop giving the BT spikes yet, but understand that you have gained interest and often that you have reached the hook. Guys, these IOIs are subtle and as i said, SUBCOMMUNICATED. They aren't aware of what their doing and often times not sure what they are feeling. You can't call a girl on this and you dont give up, just understand that upon acknowledgement it is time for a phase shift.
There are other more subtle IOIs that are critical to the rest of your game. If she returns to you and re-engages you this is just as much of an IOI as if she has spent 20- 60 minutes in rapport or comfort with you. You have to be able to frame these gestures correctly and act upon them. A girl that has spent more than ten minutes in comfort with you is definitely interested and needs more or you will be LJBF'd. Many guys have problems going to the next level, but I see these IOIs as encouragement to keep pushing.
Because, Many people are not as aware of how to interpret or display BL as I am I do not get discouraged if I see what are generally dictated as IODs. Indicators of disinterest. Those include, constantly looking over the shoulder, legs crossed away from you, or stiff and unresponsive. I will not get discouraged at the sight of those because I know that I am an extremely social person and am light years beyond many people. If a girl is stiff and unresponsive, maybe she is uncomfortable in the setting or isn't socially agile. If she's looking over her shoulder maybe she is expecting somebody or watching her friend. if her legs aren't crossed towards me then maybe she is just comfortable sitting that way or maybe even fully understands BL and is trying to play hard to get. There are to many possible reasons to automatically eject based on an unspoken compliance test. PERSIST & PURSUE!!!
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